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[anti-rclick]July 26, 2011


Tonight I received a call, and I missed it at first. Usually I would not pick up the phone, especially on my day off. But I saw it was a call from a student’s parent, so I called her back. She told me that my student was distressed by not being able to get her practice done properly and therefore became worried and very upset (note: she was a new student transferred to me recently). So I asked to talk to my student directly. I asked her what seemed to be the problem, and I explained to her how she should get her practice done step by step. I also comforted her and told her not to worry too much about not being able to get it perfectly. I reminded her how to practice the song, take each phrase slowly, step by step and work it out. She seemed to calm down a bit and I could feel that she became happy again.

After I hanged up the phone, I began to think, why she was so stressed out about the whole practice matter. In fact, the new song I gave her was quite simple compared to the playing level she was in. I believed she could handle it. But there were other reasons that might hinder her from reaching her full potential yet.

Do you ever have one of those experiences that when you try harder, you fail more? For example, you are in a hurry to leave home, but you cannot find your keys, so you are so desperate to locate them that you just search every single corner yet you still do not see them? Or when you reach the main entrance at your residential building, and you have to key in the passcode, usually you do not even think before you enter it, but today you just try to think about it, and all of a sudden your brain goes blank and you simply cannot recall the passcode at all?

When we have too much doubt about ourselves, we fail to pull through.

I am not asking you to not even doubt yourself at all. In fact, please think regularly what you can do to better your playing. But do not go crazy when you cannot play something right. Be calm and think. What can you do to correct it? To play better? Simply recognize the situation you are in.
Identify the problem. Then figure out a solution. Try out the solution and practice it.

That’s all.

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今晚我接到一個電話,最初我錯過了。通常我不接電話,尤其是在我放假的那一天。但我看到這個電話是一個學生的家長打來的,所以我打給她。她告訴我,我的學生/她的女兒不知道自己的練習方法是否得當,因此非常擔心和不安(注:她是一個最近新轉來的學生)。於是我和學生直接對話。我問她有什麼問題,然後我再向她解釋如何怎樣一步一步去進行練習。我還安慰她,告訴她不要太擔心不能夠練習到完美。我提醒她怎麼練習,慢慢地,有步驟的練好每一句音樂。她似乎平靜下來,我能感覺到,她變得開心了。

當我掛了電話後,我開始思考,為什麼她那麼緊張對整個練習問題。事實上,我給她的那首新歌曲相比起她的演奏水平是相當簡單的,我相信她能夠輕鬆處理得到。但也可能有其他原因妨礙她表現到她的全部潛力。

你有否曾經有這些經驗,當你更越緊張去做一件事情,你卻反而更做不好它呢?例如,你急於離家出外,但你就是不能找到你的鑰匙,就算你這麼不顧一切地找那鑰匙,搜索了家中每一個角落,但你還是找不出它來呢?或者當你到達住宅的正門,你要輸入大門的密碼,通常你想都不要想便立即輸入密碼,但今天你只是試圖去想一想它的數字組合,然後一剎那你的大腦突然完全空白,其實你根本不記得那密碼?

當我們懷疑自己太多時,我們便不能繼續向前。

我不是要求你一點也不要懷疑自己。事實上,請你定期想想你有什麼可以在自己的彈奏中做得更好。但是請不要在彈奏得不好的時候失去理智。保持冷靜,然後思考。你能做些什麼來糾正呢?怎樣做才能彈奏得更好呢?認清你所在的形勢。

找出問題所在。然後找出一個解決方案。試用解決方案去練習。

That’s all。就是這樣。


Teresa Wong 黃穎妍


P.S. This was written a couple months ago. Now the student has gained much confidence and improvement in her playing and practice.


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